Would You Gossip Less If You Had More Of A Life?

Source: Wazala.com

Source: Wazala.com

It is never good to be more interested in someone’s downfall than you are in their success.

 

Have you ever known anyone that  seems to have just way too much time on their hands or not enough goals and they continuously gossip?  I mean, let’s be real, if gossiping were a sport, they may actually win a trophy. Continue reading

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The Double Standard: Women, Men & Sex!

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Source: Google Images

This particular post came about during several conversations with both men and women.  When I reference “sex” in this post I don’t just mean the physical action, but everything that comes along with it…you know, kissing, touching, talking, dating, friends with benefits, and so on.  Continue reading

How Social Media Replaced The Woman’s Intuition!

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I know he’s cheating…I can just feel it!  This used to be how women expressed their reasoning when they thought their significant other was being unfaithful.  It was a feeling, intuition, something that could be FELT in the pit of their stomachs.  Nowadays…chile please!  Social media IS a woman’s intuition.  Continue reading

Do You Know How to Break Up With Someone?

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Source: realchristianmcqueen.com

 

 

With Valentine’s Day in our rear view mirrors, it’s probably appropriate to talk about the art of breaking up (hee hee).  You could say that recent events in my own life have made me stop and think about why breaking up is so hard to do.  I personally commend all of those heartless men and women out there who have the ability to sever ties and not look back. Me?  I’m like that puppy that knows when you’re going out of town and all they do is whimper and cry as you pack your bags, as if it will change someone’s mind.  I mean, call it separation anxiety or being a softy, but I just don’t break up with people…I just CAN’T do it!

 

So, here’s MY deal.  I get so attached to people, I invest all of my energy into someone that when the time comes and the dreadful downward spiral begins, it just seems impossible.  It honestly feels like breaking up would be the equivalent of not having an arm or not being able to breathe…you just can’t imagine that, right?

 

Can you break up with someone? How do you do it? Is it this insane build up of awkward exchanges then one day you finally break and blurt out, “YOU CAN’T SIT WITH US?!” like in the movie Mean Girls?  Or do you just distance yourself until the other person breaks up with you so that you don’t have to do the dirty work? Or do you just disappear and hope that no one notices?    I’m sure someONE must have the answers…right?

 

Far too often relationships feel like a chore and from a very young age, many of us have heard relationships take work and love is hard.  But, I’m not so sure that’s true. If two people are in love, sure, there will be tough times, but shouldn’t it be the ONE thing in life that you don’t have to work at?  Shouldn’t it be that “gimme” from God that’s just not too hard?  Maybe if being with someone was understood to be just a temporary “thing” then ending it wouldn’t be such a difficult task.  At some point I’m sure I’ll have to grow up and put my big girl panties on and learn how to do the breaking up thing, but for now I’ll let the grown-ups master that art.  I’m OK with being an incapable 32-year-old sucker!

 

Rapper, Ludacris Proposes and Gets Married in One Day

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The traditional regimen of getting engaged and planning a wedding one to two years later, was the total opposite of what Ludacris had in mind.  He and Eudoxie Mbouguiengue, his long time girlfriend of 6 years, showed us that it can be done differently.

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The rapper surprised Eudoxie with his proposal, while on a private jet and also gifted her with a white dress that would serve as her wedding gown that same day.  After tying the knot, close friends and family (including singers Monica and LeToya Luckett) met them and jetted off to Cost Rica for a group honeymoon.

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What a way to solidify love! Kudos to Ludacris for thinking outside of the box and showing Eudoxie that she is your queen.  CONGRATS and MANY BLESSINGS!

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*All photos are credited to Instagram and Prime Phocus photography

The Power of Letting Go

 

I don’t think this post should be taken as a sad declaration of moving on from people and things in life.  The intention behind it is to simply state the obvious…letting go is hard, but sometimes necessary.  Having goals and even setting them requires a clear head and a sense of focus that cannot be attained as long as there is clutter all around you.  Recently, I’ve noticed that letting go (although tough) is more manageable for me and not just because I’m getting older or more mature, but because I put myself as a priority.  I used to be the type of person to give chance after chance, especially when I should have just walked away, but not anymore.  However, I still am the type of person that holds onto “things” because I have formed some version of an emotional attachment to them.  When I moved out of my last apartment I decided that I wanted to begin a new tradition of leaving behind anything that I didn’t need  and the same can go for some people in my life.  I am learning that in order for me to be the best DANIELLA, I need to place myself first among the list of people that I care about.

 

During this transition phase of my life, I have changed the way I date, I’ve adjusted the leisure activities I partake in, I allow people who treat me badly to choose which door they want to walk out of and I don’t give second chances.  What I do for me may not work for the next person, but I have made the decision to become immersed in my tunnel vision.  At the end of the tunnel, all I see is my success.  The people, places and things that I come in contact with are mere obstacles, manifestations of my own thoughts, the energy I put out and the fate that God has in store for me.  Those are the things that I either can’t control, blessings or the things that I have brought on myself from negative thoughts/actions.  If I can get through that tunnel of LIFE and only take with me what I need, then I can have all the success that I work so hard for.

 

Someone taught me a huge lesson this past week.  My happiness is MY choice and since it is my choice, I have to create my own bubble where no one can touch my tunnel that leads to MY success.  Life isn’t as difficult as some make it; it’s actually just the movie version of the script you’ve written for yourself.  To all of my readers, it’s time to let some shit go…pick one thing or person that isn’t contributing to your success and LET…IT..GO!