When change comes about,  don’t fight it. Sometimes it’s best to let it be and not search for understanding.  I believe when you go against it, that’s when the darkness wins and your mind no longer belongs to your soul because you begin to worry and panic. 

We get accustomed to routines and schedules and when either are altered,  we realize that we’ve been chained to the idea of what is normal. 

I don’t want to be normal anymore.

The Power of Letting Go


I don’t think this post should be taken as a sad declaration of moving on from people and things in life.  The intention behind it is to simply state the obvious…letting go is hard, but sometimes necessary.  Having goals and even setting them requires a clear head and a sense of focus that cannot be attained as long as there is clutter all around you.  Recently, I’ve noticed that letting go (although tough) is more manageable for me and not just because I’m getting older or more mature, but because I put myself as a priority.  I used to be the type of person to give chance after chance, especially when I should have just walked away, but not anymore.  However, I still am the type of person that holds onto “things” because I have formed some version of an emotional attachment to them.  When I moved out of my last apartment I decided that I wanted to begin a new tradition of leaving behind anything that I didn’t need  and the same can go for some people in my life.  I am learning that in order for me to be the best DANIELLA, I need to place myself first among the list of people that I care about.


During this transition phase of my life, I have changed the way I date, I’ve adjusted the leisure activities I partake in, I allow people who treat me badly to choose which door they want to walk out of and I don’t give second chances.  What I do for me may not work for the next person, but I have made the decision to become immersed in my tunnel vision.  At the end of the tunnel, all I see is my success.  The people, places and things that I come in contact with are mere obstacles, manifestations of my own thoughts, the energy I put out and the fate that God has in store for me.  Those are the things that I either can’t control, blessings or the things that I have brought on myself from negative thoughts/actions.  If I can get through that tunnel of LIFE and only take with me what I need, then I can have all the success that I work so hard for.


Someone taught me a huge lesson this past week.  My happiness is MY choice and since it is my choice, I have to create my own bubble where no one can touch my tunnel that leads to MY success.  Life isn’t as difficult as some make it; it’s actually just the movie version of the script you’ve written for yourself.  To all of my readers, it’s time to let some shit go…pick one thing or person that isn’t contributing to your success and LET…IT..GO!

Birthday Wishes!





Here we are again…another year of life celebrated!  It seems like I was just in Miami with my family, bringing in the big 3-0!  Now, I’m the big 3-1 and wondering where the time went.  So many changes came about over the past year, both good and bad, and I must say that it feels good to see how strong of a woman I am becoming.  As life shifts into a new phase, I am embracing it.  I welcome new experiences and adventures.  Thank you to everyone who has shown me love on my special day…here’s to another year of growth, lessons and love.

What Was My 2013 Like? Hard As Hell!

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I will say this…the past year was really HARD! I went through some serious changes and adversities to say the least.  The silver lining in all of this is that everything that I’ve faced has made me an even stronger person and I now know that I’m built for battle.  Here’s a breakdown:


I’ve gotten closer to my family and have looked to them to really help me through the tough times.  I realize that when the world has turned its back on you, they are the people who will be around to help pick up the pieces.

Love and Relationships:

I walked away from someone who I thought was the love of my life.  I’ve tried dating, but I have come to the conclusion that I need to make myself whole before I can open my heart up to anyone and it feels good to really get MY life together and focus on what makes THIS girl happy!


Lost my job and am starting over!  I am starting from a clean slate and am actually tackling the things that I’ve been “dreaming” about…exciting stuff.


This one is probably the hardest one to touch upon because simply put, I lost my best friend.  I learned that the people who are closest to you can turn on you.  When you apply heat to anything, you get to see what the foundation consists of and the reality is, anyone who is willing to walk away from me really doesn’t deserve to be in my life.  I refuse to have seasonal friends so all I can say is, keep walking your ass in the other direction because I don’t believe in forcing anyone to ever be in your life.


I learned a lot in 2013, but I am really glad it is over.  The chapters have ended and my new book of life is just beginning!

Happy New Year!

What Have My 30’s Taught Me So Far?

Let’s see, how can I explain this?  I feel as if there has been a secret society this whole time and I just got invited to join.  It’s as if a weird sense of enlightenment has come over me.  I have more drive, more clarity and more guts!  Dreams that I have always looked at as far into my future, are closer than ever before and I can taste a change coming.  I look around and see so many people living a day to day routine, just like a robot and I find myself silently screaming at them like, “WAKE UP! DON’T YOU REALIZE HOW BORING YOUR LIFE IS?!”

Furthermore, I see sprinkles of other people around me who are getting the same itch to scream at the robots.  I’m uncertain of what’s specifically happening, but it’s true what they say about how everything changes in your 30’s.  If you jumped from your 20’s to your 30’s and felt nothing, I’m almost convinced that you’re missing a queue.  Maybe a big life change needs to happen in order for you to jump out of your monotony.


I’m at a pivotal place in my life right now. How do I know? I can feel it. Everything that I had known to be a custom, a habit and a trademark is beginning to take on a new form. The people around me are changing, friendships are becoming more dynamic and honest, daily habits have become boring.  I’ve been here before, remember? I explained everything to you guys in my post, “One Day I Woke Up & Was Bored With Life!” and I expressed how I felt like I needed to make a change.  Well, here I am again.  Learning that life is unpredictable. We can plan, but no matter what, there is always a higher power that has the last say. I haven’t been taking this sudden change too well, to say the least. I could feel the stress in my shoulders and I literally had knots up and down my back. Abruptly, the things that I had known and built a routine around, suddenly altered and I wasn’t sure what to do.  Even as I write this, I’m still uncertain of what my next steps will be, but I am in a position to not just dream…I have the chance to start living.