The Power of Letting Go

 

I don’t think this post should be taken as a sad declaration of moving on from people and things in life.  The intention behind it is to simply state the obvious…letting go is hard, but sometimes necessary.  Having goals and even setting them requires a clear head and a sense of focus that cannot be attained as long as there is clutter all around you.  Recently, I’ve noticed that letting go (although tough) is more manageable for me and not just because I’m getting older or more mature, but because I put myself as a priority.  I used to be the type of person to give chance after chance, especially when I should have just walked away, but not anymore.  However, I still am the type of person that holds onto “things” because I have formed some version of an emotional attachment to them.  When I moved out of my last apartment I decided that I wanted to begin a new tradition of leaving behind anything that I didn’t need  and the same can go for some people in my life.  I am learning that in order for me to be the best DANIELLA, I need to place myself first among the list of people that I care about.

 

During this transition phase of my life, I have changed the way I date, I’ve adjusted the leisure activities I partake in, I allow people who treat me badly to choose which door they want to walk out of and I don’t give second chances.  What I do for me may not work for the next person, but I have made the decision to become immersed in my tunnel vision.  At the end of the tunnel, all I see is my success.  The people, places and things that I come in contact with are mere obstacles, manifestations of my own thoughts, the energy I put out and the fate that God has in store for me.  Those are the things that I either can’t control, blessings or the things that I have brought on myself from negative thoughts/actions.  If I can get through that tunnel of LIFE and only take with me what I need, then I can have all the success that I work so hard for.

 

Someone taught me a huge lesson this past week.  My happiness is MY choice and since it is my choice, I have to create my own bubble where no one can touch my tunnel that leads to MY success.  Life isn’t as difficult as some make it; it’s actually just the movie version of the script you’ve written for yourself.  To all of my readers, it’s time to let some shit go…pick one thing or person that isn’t contributing to your success and LET…IT..GO!

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Birthday Wishes!

Source: booksicals.com

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Here we are again…another year of life celebrated!  It seems like I was just in Miami with my family, bringing in the big 3-0!  Now, I’m the big 3-1 and wondering where the time went.  So many changes came about over the past year, both good and bad, and I must say that it feels good to see how strong of a woman I am becoming.  As life shifts into a new phase, I am embracing it.  I welcome new experiences and adventures.  Thank you to everyone who has shown me love on my special day…here’s to another year of growth, lessons and love.

Would You Alter Your Dream For Love?

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking in regards to where I want to be in the next few years. Along the way it has become painfully obvious that no matter how much we plan, God has the ultimate say-so.  So, with that in mind, I can have hopes and dreams and pray that I am moving in the right direction, but I have to be prepared for things to just not go as I may want them to.

If I reflect on the past few years, there are many things that I’ve wanted to accomplish, but for some reason I meet someone special, things get put on hold, and before I realize it, years have passed and I’m left regretting not doing more for myself.  Of course life lessons came out of each experience, so I can’t be too mad at myself, but I do often wish I’d been just a tad selfish.

If I had to answer my own question, I’d say, “no, I would not alter my dream for love” because I’ve altered, paused, forgot, abused and neglected my dreams for love before.  Anyone who truly loves me will join me for the ride and support me along the way.

A Road Less Traveled.

I think we all reach points in our life when there’s a fork in the road.  We have the choice to either go left or right, not knowing which direction is the correct one.  I’m more of a choose-neither-kind-of-gal and see what happens if I go straight!  It’s how I’ve chosen to live my life and whether or not it was ever the best decision for me, it’s gotten me to THIS very point in my life.  Do I have regrets? Sure do.  Are there things that I would change if I could? Absolutely.  However, in the end, all of the choices that I have made for myself, were means to a lesson.  So, what sort of things have I learned? I’m blessed even when I don’t get all that I pray for, I love like it’s going out of style, I’m stronger than I give myself credit for, I will forgive someone a million times without them doing the same for me, and most of all, I am able to accept the consequences for my actions even if “in the moment” I don’t want to.

On the other hand, something that I struggle with DEEPLY is accepting the criticism of others.  Because my heart is so big and I love so hard, sometimes I feel like I can’t do much to offend those that I love the most, but I now know that this is so far from the truth.  I’ve had people teach me some crazy lessons recently and their words have stuck in my head.  I’m guilty of holding some to such a high standard that is virtually impossible for them to ever meet.  When they fail at living up to my “standards” I am the first one there to make them aware of their mistake. I’m also guilty of being so easily filled with anger when my feelings are hurt and what’s inside of me comes out through my words…words that can be hurtful.  I’m also very emotional and with emotions come blurred judgments.  And these are just a few.



You may be wondering why I’m disclosing any of this.  Well, I believe that it is our (the world’s) responsibility to openly share parts of our journey that could prove to be helpful to others.  I want to be the best representation of myself to the world and as I grow, I realize that no matter how many times I fail or I fall down or I take the wrong path at the fork in the road, I still have to live with myself.  I still have to look in the mirror and look into the eyes of the person staring back at me.  One thing I am sure of is, I am completely grateful for the people that have stuck by my side.  I am forever grateful for those that have chosen to make me a better person rather than giving up even when I made it the easy option.  It is because of them that I have lifelong friends, strong family ties and the motivation to be a better woman.

With this in mind, I made a list.  A list of things that I want to work on within me because whether I choose left, right or straight, the path begins and ends with the person walking it…and I want to be a wise traveler.

1. Cut back on cussing (totally a work in progress, but the change starts now-words are powerful)

2. Listen to others speak, more than I listen to myself speak

3. Start admitting when I am wrong

4. Tell my family/friends “thank you” and “I appreciate you” more than I point the finger

5. The people that walk away…let them!



It’s a small list, but it’s my start.  No one is perfect, so I challenge you to make your own and do your best to stick with it!