Sunday Mind Frame: Relaxation

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Whether you had a rough week, a busy week, draining past few days,  etc., take a moment to be still.  I’ve had a pretty rough few years, let alone weeks or days, and I find some comfort in knowing that at any moment I can be still and take some deep breathes.

I have never handled stress too well, therefore need to take moments and force myself to be silent and relaxed.  I’ve recently looked to others for inspiration and have began a daily yoga regimen.   At some point of each day, I find time to be in total peace and quiet.

What’s your relaxtion method?

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Life’s Intermission…

It’s been some weeks, but I’m still here.  I pray everyone had an amazing holiday and is starting off 2015 in good spirits.  I took the last few weeks to just be still.  I wanted to enjoy my family and friends.  

2014 was unforgiving in many ways, but so many blessings surfaced in the last couple of months.  I needed to reset and regroup and that meant disconnecting myself for some time. 

At some point, we all need to get back to the basics and realign our thoughts, goals and game plan.  A part of my journey and process has been to get back to the Lord.  It may not be everyone’s cup of tea,  but getting closer to perfection and good ideals, morals, lifestyle,  etc. is where my focus has been.

May 2015 be our year for greatness.   Let’s get out there and make things happen.  Oh, and I’m back so get ready for what’s coming on Danithedreamgirl.com. 

Are You Giving Too Much To The World?

Hello, Dreamers!

Every once in a while,  I like to step away from the mainstream BS and get grounded.  I will preface this post by saying,  I don’t go to church every Sunday like I used to, so the spiritual simulation that I receive is something I have to really work for and desire enough to seek.  With that said,  I really spend a lot of my off days thinking,  meditating, being by myself,  writing, etc.

A thought came to me recently and I began wondering,  why do I lend the world so much of myself?  Think about it.  You want to remain valuable at work so you do the best you can and put in extra hours,  pick up other people’s slack,  go above and beyond.  You want to get in shape so you watch what you eat, go grocery shopping,  diet. You want your partner to be happy so you take them on a date,  buy them something nice,  talk about things,  cook a romantic dinner, sacrifice.   Whatever it is that you do, think about all of the energy that you put out on a daily basis… what’s left for just you?  How are you happy as an individual?

When a relationship or job suddenly ends,  what’s the first thing that you think?  All of the sacrifices I made,  the time,  the work… wasted. Sure, there are lessons,  but the feeling of disappointment is prominent.  I’m learning that if we (the people in this world) begin to take more time for ourselves,  if we keep a little something within,  if we don’t give everything to the world,  we can avoid that feeling. 

Personally, in giving so much, I tend to lose myself and I know some of you can relate.  I often remind myself that it’s OK to not let everyone in,  to not divulge my life,  to not always be the one to sacrifice,  to keep a little something just for me.  Learning this balance has been a constant battle,  but I will get there. 

*Video* Your Future is a Thought of the Now!

My brother sent me this video and I would be selfish if I didn’t share it with my readers.  The reality is, we all worry about things that, in the grand scheme of things, won’t matter down the line.  So much of our focus is spent on not living in the moment; a hard ability to master.  Check out this great video and leave your thoughts!

Do You Need Some Inspiration? Here You Go!

It’s been a while since I’ve written an inspirational post and I am definitely in need of one, so this is not only for you…it’s also for me!  Here goes nothing:

This month has been CRAZY!  The word “stress” is definitely an understatement.  I’ve been so stressed that I can feel it in my shoulders, in my back, my head…just everywhere.  I will spare you the details and focus on the lessons of said stress.  For starters, I’m learning not to put my faith in man and when I say “man” I mean people in general.  I’m almost forced to only rely on God and prayer and I think that’s what I’m supposed to be doing because it’s helping.  I’m finding myself being super sensitive with just about everything, so prayer offers some solid alone time with just me and the big guy upstairs.  I need to refocus, set up a game plan and work towards certain goals within the upcoming months.

Is that enough of a pity party for you all?  Ok, it is for me so that’s where it ends (lol).  All I’m saying is, just go through the motions of whatever you may be experiencing and start praying hard.  When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated at the world then it’s time to take a step back and just relax.  As the saying goes, it could always be worse so search for perspective.  That’s what I’m trying to do.

Angels Are Never Too Small…

Today begins the difficult task of laying the tiny victims of the Sandy Hook Elementary School to rest.  It’s hard to look at the smiling faces of young children and know that they were taken from this world far too soon and far too brutally.  This morning, mourners laid to rest 6 year old Jack Pinto and 6 year old Noah Pozner.  May they forever rest in peace and may their families learn to cope with their sudden loss.

Source: ABC News, Noah Pozner

Source: ABC News, Noah Pozner

 

 

Source: ABC News, Jack Pinto

Source: ABC News, Jack Pinto

 

I’d like to say that I can do a special post for each and every child/teacher/staff member that was lost last week, but I think that would be way too painful for myself and for my readers.  I pray that we can all learn from this horrific event that life is too short and too precious, especially when it’s barely been lived.

Why Are You Even Here?

We all want to be successful.  To some, that means earning money, having nice things to show for their hard work, flashing labels and expensive jewelry.  To others, it means something a bit more priceless…they want the feeling of being fulfilled.  My quest isn’t just about having a successful site or doing celebrity interviews or bringing you new music.  It’s really about inspiring others to live out their life’s purpose.  It’s a waste of life if you aren’t actively trying to find what you were put on this earth for.  I always had this weird thought that if I ever found what I was meant to be on earth for, God would take me back with Him (i.e. I would die lol!).  So, I never rushed the process on trying to figure it out because I wanted to live longer (weird, right?).  Then, like a ton of bricks, it hit me!  There is a REASON why I am here and it’s my job to live each day like it’s my last.

The last couple of months have been filled with a lot of death of young people.  The majority of those that passed were friends of friends or a friend’s family member, but I still took a lesson out of it all.  I don’t think that people just die out of nowhere.  I believe that their death is supposed to be a lesson and it’s a lesson that I think people, far too often, miss.  Life is short.  When I’m long gone, I want to have left a mark so that everyone that I came in contact with has some sort of memory.  That pushes me to be a better person.  Everyday I am thinking about how I can become a better person, a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister.  Everyday, I tell people how I feel.  Whether it’s a moment of brutal honesty or a moment of laughter…it’s genuine.

The moral of the story is…I’m no longer afraid to find my purpose in life because I think a part of my purpose is to be better.  To be the change that I want to see in the world around me…and that kind of mark will last a lifetime!

Monday Confessions…

Normally Monday is blocked out for showing others how to become a blogger, but instead, I am going to do something that some bloggers stray away from…making it personal.  The past month has been craaaaazy!  I’ve seen death, I’ve seen sadness, I’ve seen friendships change, I’ve seen betrayal, I’ve seen families being torn apart, I’ve seen struggle, I’ve seen pain.  There were small sprinkles of fun and laughter, but mostly just a whirlwind of THINGS!  Some of them were my things and some were not my things.  A part of my journey to fulfilling my life’s purpose isn’t just filled with fun and exciting blog posts; there are major lessons and tests that I experience along the way.  When I put everything together, it becomes the sum of a greater whole…each piece of the puzzle playing its own role.  I firmly believe that everything that occurs in this lifetime is a lesson to be learned.  Regardless of the trials that I go through, one consistent lesson that I always come away with is that life is so darn precious.  It is so important to recognize/right your wrongs, to appreciate your blessings and to forgive others even when they don’t forgive you.  I’m not afraid of people seeing my bad days because I am who I am.  I’m in constant growth and change and perfection has never been claimed.  I have done plenty of things that I am not proud of, but one thing is for sure…I can always humble myself enough to recognize/right my wrongs, appreciate my blessings and to ALWAYS forgive (even myself).  Maybe this will be just another post that you read today, but I’m hoping that it will help someone along their journey and to be a reminder that you may be in the midst of your storm, but there will always be sunny days again.

A Road Less Traveled.

I think we all reach points in our life when there’s a fork in the road.  We have the choice to either go left or right, not knowing which direction is the correct one.  I’m more of a choose-neither-kind-of-gal and see what happens if I go straight!  It’s how I’ve chosen to live my life and whether or not it was ever the best decision for me, it’s gotten me to THIS very point in my life.  Do I have regrets? Sure do.  Are there things that I would change if I could? Absolutely.  However, in the end, all of the choices that I have made for myself, were means to a lesson.  So, what sort of things have I learned? I’m blessed even when I don’t get all that I pray for, I love like it’s going out of style, I’m stronger than I give myself credit for, I will forgive someone a million times without them doing the same for me, and most of all, I am able to accept the consequences for my actions even if “in the moment” I don’t want to.

On the other hand, something that I struggle with DEEPLY is accepting the criticism of others.  Because my heart is so big and I love so hard, sometimes I feel like I can’t do much to offend those that I love the most, but I now know that this is so far from the truth.  I’ve had people teach me some crazy lessons recently and their words have stuck in my head.  I’m guilty of holding some to such a high standard that is virtually impossible for them to ever meet.  When they fail at living up to my “standards” I am the first one there to make them aware of their mistake. I’m also guilty of being so easily filled with anger when my feelings are hurt and what’s inside of me comes out through my words…words that can be hurtful.  I’m also very emotional and with emotions come blurred judgments.  And these are just a few.



You may be wondering why I’m disclosing any of this.  Well, I believe that it is our (the world’s) responsibility to openly share parts of our journey that could prove to be helpful to others.  I want to be the best representation of myself to the world and as I grow, I realize that no matter how many times I fail or I fall down or I take the wrong path at the fork in the road, I still have to live with myself.  I still have to look in the mirror and look into the eyes of the person staring back at me.  One thing I am sure of is, I am completely grateful for the people that have stuck by my side.  I am forever grateful for those that have chosen to make me a better person rather than giving up even when I made it the easy option.  It is because of them that I have lifelong friends, strong family ties and the motivation to be a better woman.

With this in mind, I made a list.  A list of things that I want to work on within me because whether I choose left, right or straight, the path begins and ends with the person walking it…and I want to be a wise traveler.

1. Cut back on cussing (totally a work in progress, but the change starts now-words are powerful)

2. Listen to others speak, more than I listen to myself speak

3. Start admitting when I am wrong

4. Tell my family/friends “thank you” and “I appreciate you” more than I point the finger

5. The people that walk away…let them!



It’s a small list, but it’s my start.  No one is perfect, so I challenge you to make your own and do your best to stick with it!