Would You Gossip Less If You Had More Of A Life?

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Source: Wazala.com

It is never good to be more interested in someone’s downfall than you are in their success.


Have you ever known anyone that  seems to have just way too much time on their hands or not enough goals and they continuously gossip?  I mean, let’s be real, if gossiping were a sport, they may actually win a trophy. Continue reading

30+ With No Baby Or Hubby?


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If you are a woman in your 30’s, with no baby or hubby, there are many pressures that you may be feeling.  For starters, every one of your friends is probably getting married or expecting.  What does this mean for the rest of us who just aren’t there yet?  Continue reading

Can People F*ck Up Your Journey?

First things first,  yes, I cussed in my title…it’s ok.  Now,  I’ve been going back and forth about this topic for a while,  but mostly through random thoughts in my head.

So many of us are on a profound journey that we want the world to take notice of,  but have you ever thought about the world not wanting what’s best for you?

I mean,  let’s be real,  do you honestly believe that all of your friends are happy for you?  I’ll be the one to burst your bubble; they aren’t!  That’s because not everyone is your friend.  Not everyone is in a healthy place where they can be happy for others.  That place can be a breeding ground for envy and jealousy, so we all have to be careful.  We can also have individuals around us that just aren’t good people.  They only care about their journey and their life; in other words,  selfish.

People can genuinely f*ck up your journey!  Friends,  coworkers,  exes, boyfriends,  girlfriends,  family… all opportunities to derail your path.  One bit of advice I can offer,  from experience of course,  when people walk out of your life,  allow them.  You don’t need them.  If you give life to any negativity,  you’ve opened the door to unnecessary drama and distractions.

Here’s what YOU can do in the midst of dealing with others… continue to love,  shine light,  stay focused.  The universe will work everything else out,  trust me.

Special Post for a Woman Shaping Her Destiny…

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We all go through changes in life…

We see friends come, friends go…we go through ups and we go through downs…we cry…we laugh…we have crazy moments…we experience it all!

As crazy at it gets, some people can take a leap of faith so great, that you can’t help but appreciate and look up in amazement.  I met a special gal about 12 years ago while in college.  From the beginning, she had an outgoing spirit and one hell of a side eye (lol)!  We had moments of distance, where months would go by with no contact, but then that one girl’s night out, every once in a while, brought us back together.  As we get older, I’ve grown to appreciate her honesty and her support.  When I think about it and look back at old pics, I realize that she has really been there for a lot.  My lovely and dear friend, Jelonda, will be embarking on a journey that will be life changing.

She has decided to move to Thailand for six months, working on her inner and outer self, taking life as it comes.  Who knows where this leap of faith will lead her, but one thing is for sure, I have an immeasurable amount of respect for her.

To my girl:

Know that we are all watching you and praying for your safe travels.  We love you and want nothing but the best for this new path that you are walking down.  You are an inspiration to everyone around you and even those watching from afar.  Continue to follow your heart and your dreams…I am SO SO proud of you and I know that God will be guiding your every move, so behave and live it up as if no one is watching lol.  Here are some snapshots of great times, so whenever you get homesick just take a peak at the memories!

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Some Will Stay Forever, but NOT Everyone Made it to 2012 with Me!

To my followers, I say “THANK YOU” for supporting me and taking the time to read such great stories of inspiration!  I’ve gotten many emails and comments from those that were truly helped and inspired after reading about some amazing people and their journeys through life.  I have some additional interviews that I will be disclosing within the next month or so; stay tuned!

With that said, I think it’s a good idea to clear the air and make a personal statement with this being a new year and all.  I’ve welcomed 2012 with open arms; 2011 was filled with so many events, ups and downs, trials, epiphanies, changes, etc.  It was a busy year, to say the least.  However, in all the lessons that I took away from the past year, there are two that shine through (not all friendships last forever and family means everything) and I’m sure others will be able to relate.  I took time to slim down my circle of friends, evaluated who I’ve been letting into my life and it was certainly time for a change.  Although, I’m a FIRM believer that everyone comes into your life for a reason, it is also true that not everyone is meant to stay.  It wasn’t all DEEP though; I took some much-needed time to be with the people who mean the most and I did things that made ME happy like, take a trip to Miami for my brother’s birthday…



Went to see Jay and Kanye’s Watch the Throne Tour…


Went to L.A. for the first time…



I had some amazing experiences, but of course as luck would have it, it wasn’t all fun and games for me.  Friendships were tested!  Some of my friendships ended, some of them started, but the ones that stand out the most are those that just disappeared.  I had a “friend” get engaged and will be married soon; I guess that invitation got lost in the mail (FYI, never drop your girls for any man…that’s Rule #1)!  After 11 years of friendship, she broke the mighty, mighty Rule #1.  I had another “friend” become so selfish and unappreciative of my time and truly thought that the world revolved around her drinking schedule…that relationship is no longer an issue for me.  Both situations were with two different people, but had the same outcome and I have no issues with either one being gone.  Of course time and attention were invested and sacrifices were made on both ends, but when the expiration date approaches I don’t fight it.  I don’t look back and I certainly don’t lose sleep over fixing something that will forever be broken. Sorry folks, no pics of the two ladies referenced above…I’m not that cold-hearted.

The moral of my story is, no matter how positive you may try to be in life, no matter how inspired you are by someone’s success, or how you try to maintain mind control, nothing will prepare any of us for the unexpected things that happen in life.  One of the unexpected things that life may bring is having to say “good-bye” to those that you thought had your best interest at heart.  I’d rather deal with the pain of turning away, than suffer a lifetime of toxic relationships…that will certainly end up killing me in the long run.  Instead, I chose to rid my life of the bad and celebrate the good!  I brought in the new year with a bang, with friends and friends of friends!



Living life the happy way is the first step to moving in the right direction!  The Dreamgirl can’t dream if she surrounds herself with nightmares!  Keep on dreaming!