Why Are You Even Here?

We all want to be successful.  To some, that means earning money, having nice things to show for their hard work, flashing labels and expensive jewelry.  To others, it means something a bit more priceless…they want the feeling of being fulfilled.  My quest isn’t just about having a successful site or doing celebrity interviews or bringing you new music.  It’s really about inspiring others to live out their life’s purpose.  It’s a waste of life if you aren’t actively trying to find what you were put on this earth for.  I always had this weird thought that if I ever found what I was meant to be on earth for, God would take me back with Him (i.e. I would die lol!).  So, I never rushed the process on trying to figure it out because I wanted to live longer (weird, right?).  Then, like a ton of bricks, it hit me!  There is a REASON why I am here and it’s my job to live each day like it’s my last.

The last couple of months have been filled with a lot of death of young people.  The majority of those that passed were friends of friends or a friend’s family member, but I still took a lesson out of it all.  I don’t think that people just die out of nowhere.  I believe that their death is supposed to be a lesson and it’s a lesson that I think people, far too often, miss.  Life is short.  When I’m long gone, I want to have left a mark so that everyone that I came in contact with has some sort of memory.  That pushes me to be a better person.  Everyday I am thinking about how I can become a better person, a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister.  Everyday, I tell people how I feel.  Whether it’s a moment of brutal honesty or a moment of laughter…it’s genuine.

The moral of the story is…I’m no longer afraid to find my purpose in life because I think a part of my purpose is to be better.  To be the change that I want to see in the world around me…and that kind of mark will last a lifetime!

Behind the Music: Toni Braxton [Full Version]

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This is an amazing story of passion, struggle, fortitude and above all, endurance!  No one ever said that following your dreams would be easy and Toni Braxton’s story is a perfect example of working hard for everything that you have.  (Thanks for sharing, The Jasmine Brand) Check out the full version of Vh1’s Behind the Music: Toni Braxton.

Drake Delivers High School Graduation Speech in Toronto… *Video*

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Some may laugh at Drake for obtaining his high school diploma at the age of 26, but I commend him for reaching his goal.  His uncle taught him the importance of following through and it is what motivated him to go back and do something that most wouldn’t have the courage to do.  His speech is an example of why I built my site; to motivate others to follow their dreams and to EXPERIENCE their journey to the fullest.  Drake explains,

I had left a gaping whole in my story of following through…we figured out how I could close my chapter of following through.  Sometimes it’s about going there, not getting there.  Sometimes it’s the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination. And sometimes when you get there, you’ll look back and you’ll realize that you wish you could go there again because all of the experiences that you went through are the reason that you are who you are today.

Check out his speech:

Who Would Cyber Bully Over Chris Brown?!

So, you KNOW that I don’t do the ultra gossipy thing on my site (as in I don’t care if the baby is Beyonce’s or not!) so whatever pop culture buzz is going around I like to dig deeper and focus on the REAL issue.  Some of it is entertaining, but dang do we really care what a celebrity wears to Starbucks?  I don’t (even though I click on the link JUST to see if one of them is wearing a hairstyle or lipstick color that I like hee hee).  With allll of that said, I want to chit chat about the latest DRAMA/LOVE TRIANGLE between Chris Brown, Rihanna and Karreuche.  Clearly, it’s none of anyone’s biz-nass who he is boning or “canoodling” with behind the bleachers, BUT I think it’s going too far when ladies are cussing each other out over this fool via Instagram.  In a time when bullying is REAL and youngsters are killing themselves, it just creates attention around immaturity.  Some argue that celebrities shouldn’t be considered role models and others believe that their platform is powerful and can influence a lot of people.  I’m on the fence!  However, when I see this type of behavior, it’s hard for me not to cringe and wish that they would be smarter because people are WATCHING. Check out the convo that transpired between Melissa Forde and whoever else that is affiliated with Chris Brown’s ex:

Unknown User Sticking up for Karreuche:

Source: NecoleBitchie.com

Melissa Forde’s Response:

Source: NecoleBitchie.com

What do you think? Is stuff like this influential on others to bully?  Does it glorify something that is a never ending battle?

Blog Even When You Don’t Want To: Become a Blogger Mondays!

Do you think that it’s all just peaches and cream around here?  As if every week I want to write and write and write?  I hate to burst your cyber bubble, but that’s just not the case (lol).  I do have days, maybe even weeks, when I just don’t feel like blogging…there…I admitted it…go call the blogging police and have me arrested!  Sometimes I get angry phone calls from my BFF and friends and it basically goes something like this:

Friend: Dani, WHAT THE HELL is wrong with you?!

Me: What are you talking about?

Friend: Why haven’t you been blogging?  GET IT TOGETHER!

Me: Geez! Fine!  Can I take a week off sometimes?

Friend: Don’t make me cuss you out!

That’s my life!  Getting threats on the regular (lol)!  So, with that said, here is my weekend recap!  Even though I don’t feel like doing it because I’m still recovering and oh-so-tired, I’m “getting it together” for my Become a Blogger Mondays series:

1. I had a GREAT time this weekend!  It started with a retro themed party for my second mom who is 50 and FABULOUS!  It took me forever to get my outfit together, but I finally chose to dress like a back-in-the-day girl with the victory curls, the scarf around the neck, the tapered black pants and a cute sweater.  My hair was the highlight of my night since it took me forever to get it just right.  Here you go!  A peek at the finished product:

2. My Saturday day/night was somewhat crazier!  My homie, Joy, came over to help me pack (yes, I’m moving!) and in between celebration shots (yes, I drink!) we ate and danced and just goofed out all the way!  As I mentioned on Friday, we went to see Kevin Hart perform (he was hella funny) and then we club hopped until about 4am!  It was definitely a night to remember and here we are, about to head out (excuse the mess on the floor, I am moving/packing after all)!

3.  I wish I could say that I did something just as fun on Sunday, but I spent most of the day sleeping and nursing myself back to normalcy (lol)!

What did you do this weekend? Was it fun? Was it crazy?

Howard Homecoming: A Kevin Hart Weekend!

Photo Source: The Urban Daily

Yup, that’s right!  I finally get to see this fool in living color and I’m SO HYPE!  I normally stay away from the city during Howard’s Homecoming because there are just too many people and crowds, but this is definitely going to be a much needed and anticipated exception.  I’ve had a crazy few weeks from dealing with stress at work, packing, moving, almost busting some foreheads at a funeral, (did I mention packing?), getting pulled over for running a red light…you name it, it pretty much happened!  So yes, I will be letting my hair down, getting cute and joining in on the festivities this weekend!  ALRIGHT, ALRIGHT, ALRIIIIIGHT!  You gon’ learn today!

How will you be enjoying Howard’s Homecoming?  Do tell!

Monday Confessions…

Normally Monday is blocked out for showing others how to become a blogger, but instead, I am going to do something that some bloggers stray away from…making it personal.  The past month has been craaaaazy!  I’ve seen death, I’ve seen sadness, I’ve seen friendships change, I’ve seen betrayal, I’ve seen families being torn apart, I’ve seen struggle, I’ve seen pain.  There were small sprinkles of fun and laughter, but mostly just a whirlwind of THINGS!  Some of them were my things and some were not my things.  A part of my journey to fulfilling my life’s purpose isn’t just filled with fun and exciting blog posts; there are major lessons and tests that I experience along the way.  When I put everything together, it becomes the sum of a greater whole…each piece of the puzzle playing its own role.  I firmly believe that everything that occurs in this lifetime is a lesson to be learned.  Regardless of the trials that I go through, one consistent lesson that I always come away with is that life is so darn precious.  It is so important to recognize/right your wrongs, to appreciate your blessings and to forgive others even when they don’t forgive you.  I’m not afraid of people seeing my bad days because I am who I am.  I’m in constant growth and change and perfection has never been claimed.  I have done plenty of things that I am not proud of, but one thing is for sure…I can always humble myself enough to recognize/right my wrongs, appreciate my blessings and to ALWAYS forgive (even myself).  Maybe this will be just another post that you read today, but I’m hoping that it will help someone along their journey and to be a reminder that you may be in the midst of your storm, but there will always be sunny days again.