I recently read a story about Essena O’Neill, the famed social medial model who recently deleted her Instagram and explained the truth about her obsession with “likes” and “perfect pictures”. Continue reading
When people ask me why I started blogging, how I got into it, which bloggers inspire me, I always had one person in mind. Necole Bitchie has been my only inspiration. I was an English major in college, loved writing, but never knew what blogging was. One day I decided to started my own site and learned by trial and error. Continue reading
Please don’t take my distance from the the cyber world as a sign of neglect for my blog site. But, you know when you walk into your house or apartment and it just doesn’t feel like home? Like it’s missing something? Maybe you have to go to Ikea and grab the perfect couch or the perfect coffee table. Maybe you need to put up some family pictures or pieces of art. Whatever IT is that’s missing, you may feel something in the pit of your stomach that reveals itself and doesn’t go away until you’ve found the missing puzzle piece.
Well, that’s kind of what I feel like right now. I love blogging and have developed a safe haven where I can freely express myself, on my own terms. However, lately I’ve felt like something has been missing from my “home” and it has kept me from actually writing a blog post for almost a month. I’ve gone weeks without putting my thoughts on screen and it’s all because I don’t want to write bullshit.
So much has been happening around the world. We have a fraternity that was caught on tape, singing about hanging niggers from a tree. President Obama made history by celebrating the 50th anniversary of the march in Selma. Stars are coming “out” on the The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Black actors and actresses are finally getting leading roles on prime-time television. Some big things are happening and I still don’t have anything to write about. Why? Because the rest of the world is writing about the same damn thing. I love talking about pop culture and to tell you the truth, it brings in many readers. But, I want something much greater than the next Necolebitchie.com. I want to really make a difference. I want to become the best writer that I can be and not for all of you, but for me.
I’m in the midst of a season of change and I’m embracing it. I have shared all of my ups and downs, my epiphanies, my ideas, my everything on Danithedreamgirl.com and I will continue to do so. No matter what comes of my site, just know that I don’t want to just feed all of YOU the same old crap that you see on every other blog site. I want my ish to mean something. Ahhhhh, now that I’ve gotten all of that off of my chest, I can breathe again.
I don’t do too many product reviews, but this one seems very necessary. This winter has been really harsh on my hair. My hair feels dry, it doesn’t curl and I notice that even when I straighten my hair, there’s no hydration even if I go days without washing it. My hair is naturally curly, but in the winter time I straighten it more (bump with a curling iron) so I can go longer without washing it.
So, I’ve been trying different products and this one has really helped me! I bought two Shea Moisture products: a conditioner and a leave-in conditioner.
The Shea Moisture Intensive Hydration Hair Masque conditioner is amazing! I left it in for about 30 minutes while I showered and had my hair covered with a shower cap to trap some of the heat. I purchased this at Target for under $15 and it was well worth it. Here’s what the container looks like:
The second product I used after washing was the Shea Moisture Curl Smoothie. It smells so good and is good to use for continuous hydration and shine. I used it for both curly hair and straight hair styles. While my hair was still wet, I used it sparingly throughout then finger blew dry my hair (meaning I used my fingers instead of my brush while using a blow dryer). Again, I purchased this product at Target for about $10.
Here’s how my hair looked after using both products:
Nice, full, healthy big barrel curls and waves. If my hair begins to lose moisture, I simply apply some olive oil, but that’s rare that I need to. I’m also sure to use a ceramic curling iron. Hope this helps! Feel free to share your winter tricks for hydrated hair.
It’s been some weeks, but I’m still here. I pray everyone had an amazing holiday and is starting off 2015 in good spirits. I took the last few weeks to just be still. I wanted to enjoy my family and friends.
2014 was unforgiving in many ways, but so many blessings surfaced in the last couple of months. I needed to reset and regroup and that meant disconnecting myself for some time.
At some point, we all need to get back to the basics and realign our thoughts, goals and game plan. A part of my journey and process has been to get back to the Lord. It may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but getting closer to perfection and good ideals, morals, lifestyle, etc. is where my focus has been.
May 2015 be our year for greatness. Let’s get out there and make things happen. Oh, and I’m back so get ready for what’s coming on Danithedreamgirl.com.
See, I told you that the world is full of negative/gossip bloggers in my post, “Why Don’t I Blog About Gossip More Often?” Even celebrities are paying attention and fame does not exempt someone from getting their feelings hurt. Recently, Ciara addressed the negativity surrounding social media, specifically bloggers who are focused on earning money for their harsh stories. It makes my stomach turn to read some of the trash that gets published, but Ciara proves that I am not the only one who feels this way. If you are a REAL writer, you don’t always have to rely on putting others down to be noticed! She states:
Dear Blogger, It’s never worth it in the end when you sell your soul for a quick dollar, by creating bad stories about people. At some point, it will all reverse on you and you’ll end up regretting all the trash you wrote or said about people.
The universal friend “Karma” has demonstrated this over and over again. I strongly encourage you to project more positivity into the universe. If Social Media is a world that’s growing more massive by the day, why not use it to shed light?? Otherwise, you are merely contaminating our universe.
What about your family and kids?? Do you think about them?? You’re definitely creating a harmful and volatile environment where they must learn to live. It’s almost like you are cursing future generations with your bad energy.
Not to mention…Your “Personal Karma”??… Forget about it!
You better start doing some serious praying and rebuking, cause only The Lord knows!…:)
I sure do miss the good ol days when the focus was about the pure creativity of being an artist. Back then there was still some mystery. Social Media Is Beginning To Take Away The Specialness of What That Was, and Is.
Now, Off Blogs. Peaceful Mind. Living In My Happiness. Creativity Only.
I could easily find stories that appeal to the average reader and highlight the juicy stuff like Dwayne Wade being a father to a newborn while he just got engaged to Gabriel Union. I could focus on Chris Brown’s visit to rehab after finding himself in legal trouble once again. I could even document the day-to-day antics of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. It’s hard not to fall into the trap of blogging about gossip that would bring me thousands of site visits every day; it’s REALLY hard. But, when I first created danithedreamgirl.com I knew that I had a vision and a purpose of what I wanted my brand to represent. I wanted to encourage and inspire others to do better, to think about their life and its direction and to follow their dreams.
I sprinkle some gossip in my posts every once in a while, when the story has an alternative or deeper meaning. But, in reality the gossip market is saturated with meaningless tid bits. Instead, I wanted people to be able to read something with a purpose. I’m still a growing site and it’s hard to take a more positive approach to blogging, but I get small reminders everyday that I’m on the right track. Most of my close friends know that my inspiration for taking the plunge into building my site was and is Necole Bitchie. Her story is amazing and in many ways, I find myself relating to her on many levels. She has no clue who I even am, but if she ever reads this I hope she knows that her story is what helped me find the courage to share my voice with all of you.
I’m at a really difficult place in my life at the moment. I find myself going through personal struggles that often times seem hard to tackle. I lost my job and am hustling to pay my bills by working long hours and using every bit of energy I have. Who knows what’s next for me, but for the first time in years I can say that I am starting over. From the bare minimum. It’s a scary place to be, but I say all of this to remind my readers that THIS is why I started my site. Making danithedreamgirl.com a big enough site to generate a decent amount of revenue, becoming an industry leading blogger and inspiring people along the way are my goals. I’m just now in a place to take a serious shot at giving it my all.
Let the story begin…
I’m at a pivotal place in my life right now. How do I know? I can feel it. Everything that I had known to be a custom, a habit and a trademark is beginning to take on a new form. The people around me are changing, friendships are becoming more dynamic and honest, daily habits have become boring. I’ve been here before, remember? I explained everything to you guys in my post, “One Day I Woke Up & Was Bored With Life!” and I expressed how I felt like I needed to make a change. Well, here I am again. Learning that life is unpredictable. We can plan, but no matter what, there is always a higher power that has the last say. I haven’t been taking this sudden change too well, to say the least. I could feel the stress in my shoulders and I literally had knots up and down my back. Abruptly, the things that I had known and built a routine around, suddenly altered and I wasn’t sure what to do. Even as I write this, I’m still uncertain of what my next steps will be, but I am in a position to not just dream…I have the chance to start living.