Is J.R. Smith the New A.I.?

Source: Google Images

Source: Google Images

There is nothing sadder and more disappointing than to see an athlete with God-given abilities, waste them without so much as a flinch.  I’m all for living life on the edge and doing things in an unconventional way, but when you are given chance after chance and take that for granted, that’s a problem.  Most young men can only dream of playing in the NBA, so why would anyone not appreciate the chance to live out such an opportunity?  It drives me crazy when I see young (black) athletes living up to the stereotype.

If you have such great skill, why is it necessary to purposely untie the shoe laces on your opponents’ sneakers while your teammate is shooting a free throw?  Why do you need to skip practice to go shopping?  WHY is it necessary to charge $3,000 of room service (that you didn’t even eat) to your team’s bill, only as some sick joke to see if they would keep delivering it.

Source: Google Images

Source: Google Images

It just doesn’t make sense to me!  It’s all too familiar as well.  We’ve seen strange behavior from all-star  athlete, Allen Iverson, when he was in his prime.  A.I. was one of the greatest to play, but his attitude and reputation always preceded him.  From his ball-hogging antics, to his rebellious behavior to organization rules and skipping practices, it almost seems like he has been reincarnated in the league.  What’s even crazier is, Allen Iverson regretted some of those bad decisions and you would think someone like J.R. Smith would want to do it differently.

I hope Smith gets it together before it’s too late.  Otherwise, he’ll just be another talent wasted and ego bruised.  I genuinely hope that he can find his way because the clock is ticking and people are noticing his bad-boy ways.  I’m rooting for him to get it together, quickly!  I like to keep my posts as positive as possible, but to see such behavior is disheartening.  J.R. Smith has a golden opportunity to reach his full potential and enjoy the feeling of being one of the greats, but it is slowly slipping away.

Ciara Addresses Negative Bloggers!

See, I told you that the world is full of negative/gossip bloggers in my post, “Why Don’t I Blog About Gossip More Often?”  Even celebrities are paying attention and fame does not exempt someone from getting their feelings hurt.  Recently, Ciara addressed the negativity surrounding social media, specifically bloggers who are focused on earning money for their harsh stories.  It makes my stomach turn to read some of the trash that gets published, but Ciara proves that I am not the only one who feels this way.  If you are a REAL writer, you don’t always have to rely on putting others down to be noticed!  She states:

Dear Blogger, It’s never worth it in the end when you sell your soul for a quick dollar, by creating bad stories about people. At some point, it will all reverse on you and you’ll end up regretting all the trash you wrote or said about people.

The universal friend “Karma” has demonstrated this over and over again. I strongly encourage you to project more positivity into the universe. If Social Media is a world that’s growing more massive by the day, why not use it to shed light?? Otherwise, you are merely contaminating our universe.
What about your family and kids?? Do you think about them?? You’re definitely creating a harmful and volatile environment where they must learn to live. It’s almost like you are cursing future generations with your bad energy.
Not to mention…Your “Personal Karma”??… Forget about it!
You better start doing some serious praying and rebuking, cause only The Lord knows!…:)

I sure do miss the good ol days when the focus was about the pure creativity of being an artist. Back then there was still some mystery. Social Media Is Beginning To Take Away The Specialness of What That Was, and Is.

Now, Off Blogs. Peaceful Mind. Living In My Happiness. Creativity Only.

Love, C

E-A-G-L-E-S, EAGLES!!!!!!!!!!!!

Source: Phillyfandom.com

Source: Phillyfandom.com

Yes indeed, I am a die-hard EAGLES fan!  That means, the Redskins suck, the Giants are fluke winners and the Cowboys are some bitches in my book and I will NEVER cheer for them!  I question a man who cheers for Dallas and I will kick a girl’s ass for cheering for Dallas just because the guys she’s dating is a fan.  I BLEED green and I always will!  I am from PHILLY and rep for my team all-year ’round.  I defend my Eagles and am proud to break out in song when they score (FLYYYY EAGLES FLYYYYY)!

So, now that we are all caught up on which NFL team I root for, it’s time to address all of you bandwagon/division haters out there.  Plain and simple, we were the only team from our division who experienced a playoff game this season and WE ARE the NFC East Champions!  What does this mean?  While your butt was on the couch watching OUR playoff game, you were trying to think of something clever to say in case we didn’t win.  It means that you were all in hiding while we went on to become 10-6 and didn’t resurface until you saw the Saints beat us by 2 points last night.  I am PROUD of my team and when we DO win a Superbowl (because it’s going to happen soon), I want all of you haters to unite so we can give you a stiff middle finger all at once!

CONGRATS to by BIRDS for a great season!!!!!!!!!!!  Keep on flying!!!!

Why Don’t I Blog About Gossip More Often?

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I could easily find stories that appeal to the average reader and highlight the juicy stuff like Dwayne Wade being a father to a newborn while he just got engaged to Gabriel Union.  I could focus on Chris Brown’s visit to rehab after finding himself in legal trouble once again.  I could even document the day-to-day antics of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West.  It’s hard not to fall into the trap of blogging about gossip that would bring me thousands of site visits every day; it’s REALLY hard.  But, when I first created danithedreamgirl.com I knew that I had a vision and a purpose of what I wanted my brand to represent.  I wanted to encourage and inspire others to do better, to think about their life and its direction and to follow their dreams.

I sprinkle some gossip in my posts every once in a while, when the story has an alternative or deeper meaning.  But, in reality the gossip market is saturated with meaningless tid bits.  Instead, I wanted people to be able to read something with a purpose.  I’m still a growing site and it’s hard to take a more positive approach to blogging, but I get small reminders everyday that I’m on the right track.  Most of my close friends know that my inspiration for taking the plunge into building my site was and is Necole Bitchie.  Her story is amazing and in many ways, I find myself relating to her on many levels.  She has no clue who I even am, but if she ever reads this I hope she knows that her story is what helped me find the courage to share my voice with all of you.

I’m at a really difficult place in my life at the moment.  I find myself going through personal struggles that often times seem hard to tackle.  I lost my job and am hustling to pay my bills by working long hours and using every bit of energy I have.  Who knows what’s next for me, but for the first time in years I can say that I am starting over.  From the bare minimum.  It’s a scary place to be, but I say all of this to remind my readers that THIS is why I started my site.  Making danithedreamgirl.com a big enough site to generate a decent amount of revenue, becoming an industry leading blogger and inspiring people along the way are my goals.  I’m just now in a place to take a serious shot at giving it my all.

Let the story begin…

What Was My 2013 Like? Hard As Hell!

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I will say this…the past year was really HARD! I went through some serious changes and adversities to say the least.  The silver lining in all of this is that everything that I’ve faced has made me an even stronger person and I now know that I’m built for battle.  Here’s a breakdown:

Family:

I’ve gotten closer to my family and have looked to them to really help me through the tough times.  I realize that when the world has turned its back on you, they are the people who will be around to help pick up the pieces.

Love and Relationships:

I walked away from someone who I thought was the love of my life.  I’ve tried dating, but I have come to the conclusion that I need to make myself whole before I can open my heart up to anyone and it feels good to really get MY life together and focus on what makes THIS girl happy!

Work:

Lost my job and am starting over!  I am starting from a clean slate and am actually tackling the things that I’ve been “dreaming” about…exciting stuff.

Friends:

This one is probably the hardest one to touch upon because simply put, I lost my best friend.  I learned that the people who are closest to you can turn on you.  When you apply heat to anything, you get to see what the foundation consists of and the reality is, anyone who is willing to walk away from me really doesn’t deserve to be in my life.  I refuse to have seasonal friends so all I can say is, keep walking your ass in the other direction because I don’t believe in forcing anyone to ever be in your life.

Overall:

I learned a lot in 2013, but I am really glad it is over.  The chapters have ended and my new book of life is just beginning!

Happy New Year!

[Video] “Yonce” is a 2 Minute Tease!

Source: GQ

Source: GQ

Fine, I will do my part as an impartial blogger *clears throat* and give the lady some credit.  Beyoncé sure knows how to surprise her fans, but as she evolves in this game, so does her sexual radiance.  Many people got on Rihanna’s case for being too sexually charged, but it seems like our Houston diva, Bey, isn’t too far behind.  I must say, I’m kind of loving this alter ego, cat-woman-like fierceness from our girl.  Check out her two-minute Yonce teaser!

Charles Kellam’s “Book of G.A.M.E.” Available Xmas Eve!

Tired of the same old relationship books that repeat the same tips and to-do’s?  Well, here’s a book that should be refreshing (and a neat stocking stuffer)!  The Book of G.A.M.E. was written by Charles Kellam (aka the Philly Cat), known for his success as a comedian, and he has taken on the challenge to help men out there Get A Major Edge.

His new book will highlight ways to not just book a damsel, but how to actually redefine the dating laws you once thought were etched in stone.

Be sure to snag Book of G.A.M.E. on Christmas Eve; you are in for a major treat!

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