The Screen Vault…His Story Behind the Cameras

As I announced in my previous post, I have begun reaching out to a diverse circle of people who will definitely be able to motivate, encourage and enlighten my readers through their unique stories of success.  This first spotlight is a special one and not only because it is the first within my series, but it represents exactly what we are all searching for…a purpose driven life!  I became familiar with his story after I spontaneously began following his Twitter page (@ScreenVaultCEO).  Yes, it’s random, but sometimes in life you are drawn to something or someone and cannot begin to explain the cosmic connection of two parallel universes; you just know that it’s for a purpose greater than yourself. 

Named Vaughn Givens and a Washington, D.C. native, he began his journey in a not-so-traditional way.  Not sure which direction to go in, he hung close to his grandmother’s side, whom he reveals is his inspiration.  Throughout his life she would always encourage him to do what he loved at all times, but as we know, life isn’t that simple when you don’t know what you love.  Not having all of the answers, Vaughn was unsure which direction to steer his efforts.  However, one thing remained definite; he wanted to make his family proud.  When asked about his educational background, his response was simple,  “I have some college background. I hated school. I never really took it serious…”  To some, his answer might be a bit raw and unorthodox, but to others it could be a sign of greatness in the making.

 

In true roller coaster form, his life took a dramatic turn with the passing of his grandmother.  While dealing with the death of his inspiration, a.k.a. “Nana,” he began to dig deeper and take heed to her familiar words of wisdom, “do what you love!”  Vaughn took matters into his own hands, realizing that his life was destined for something great.  He attended the Hollywood Film Institute and began motivating himself.  Outside of the collegiate walls he began reading on his own, as well as, seeing the world with a more visual perspective.  Mr. Givens began developing what would become his passion for film.

Through this passion, he has been able to manifest his dreams into a startling reality with the birth of his very own production company.  Vaughn is the sole founder and creator of The Screen Vault; an independent film production company that prides itself on being the change that the world needs.  In his words, “Most people these days have lost their sense of imagination and we plan to bring that back!”  He has begun the production of Inner City Blues and is actively piecing together what could become D.C.’s very own masterpiece.  His film depicts the many experiences he has lived first-hand or witnessed through those around him.  When asked about the storyline, here’s what he had to say:

Inner City Blues is a very powerful story about three high-school students who grow up in the slums of Washington, D.C. They never really have time for their childhoods because of the situations that they’re put in.  It tells of the day to day struggles that kids in the inner city go through and it promotes change in our community.

His passion for this project can hardly be described and without witnessing his daily grind, you may never understand what the success of his very own movie would mean. He has pride for his city and will stop at nothing to reach his ultimate goal of re-writing film history…becoming a legend.  Most importantly he wants to show the young kids in his city that, “you can make your dreams a reality.”  You can’t help but feel the pride that he has for his hometown when he proudly declares, “I love my city! D.C. is one of the greatest, most beautiful cities in the world to me.  I believe that [our] stories should be heard…we have so much more to offer than just politics.”

While some of us are still searching for a step in the right direction, Vaughn has realized that his God-given purpose in life is to “change the world through film-making.  It’s a very powerful tool and most filmmakers take that for granted.”  He believes in his abilities and has a goal in mind; sometimes that is the hardest part of any journey.  How can DC support?  WE can start by spreading the word about The Screen Vault and as Vaughn perfectly explains, “We need our city’s support more than anything! If I can get my whole city behind me then I can get the world.  That’s how I feel!”

Want to show your monetary support and help take The Screen Vault to the next level?  Vaughn’s project needs funding!  He is heading this project with his own money and donations.  All funds go toward the cast, crew and production.  Please keep in mind that this is the first major role for many of his actors and for the DMV to show support, would be the first big step towards making their dreams come true!  Helping this cause, could grant Inner City Blues the elite opportunity to be invited to the Cannes Film Festival; one of the biggest and most prestigious film festivals known.  To make a monetary donation, please visit: http://www.indiegogo.com/INNER-CITY-BLUES-1

Let’s not forget that some of the biggest talents such as John Singleton and Tyler Perry began their journey just like Vaughn Givens…with nothing but a passion and an opportunity to make a difference.

Out With The Old…In With The Old???

I thought the saying was, “Out with the old, in with the new” right?  At least that’s how I think it’s supposed to work, but no…of course it just couldn’t be that simple for me as it is for most people.  I sometimes feel like I’m funneling the old with the older.  Whether it’s through repetition of events or having people in my life that simply don’t offer progression, but are stifling instead.

In order to avoid falling into the same old traps of love, career choices, money habits, etc. I have decided to focus my energy on my surroundings.  My journey is all about trying new things, getting through the “storms” in my life and creating my own success with maintained faith; why not shift my tunnel vision a bit and learn something “new”?  In refocusing my thoughts and talents, I am building a greater appreciation for the successful people in my life who are also on their own path of “becoming” better individuals.  I know tons of men and women who are grinding EVERYDAY for what they believe in.  How did they get there? Where did they start? What things have they done to keep a high level of motivation? What motivates them to wake up every day and be the best they can be?

These are all questions that so many of us need the answers to!  In order to welcome a good change or a different perspective, I’ve found that it’s often a wise choice to look at those around us and learn from them.  Afterall, I’m the Queen of “Everyone is in your life for a reason!” and it’s time to dig into the brains of the fabulous people I call my family, friends and strangers who I’m meeting in the cyber world (no creeps, I promise).  I will be highlighting the lives and careers of individuals from all walks of life who can offer wisdom to not only me, but to my readers as well!

THOUGHT: If you think this world only consists of personal wisdom and one path to choose from, you are selling yourself very short! Allow other people to be your muse, your mentor, your “light” source.

I DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!!!

If I’m destined to be great, how will I know when I’ve finally reached the point of greatness?  If my purpose is to help others, how will I know when I’ve reached enough people?  I’ve come to the conclusion that I won’t ever truly know the answers to these questions.  I think it’s just something I will learn to recognize.  I recently had to give myself a gut check and remember what my main goal is: To provide others with the same guidance I have received and continue to receive on a regular basis.

It’s so easy to read a blog about celebrities or get caught up in the reality TV hoopla (trust me, I have a few guilty pleasures that I watch) or to be obsessed with our favorite stars.  But what valuable information does that provide?  What life lessons can we get out of knowing that Kim Kardashian’s marriage only lasted 72 days?  Just like the next person, it’s all entertaining to some degree, but when we fail to have the ability to separate reality from fantasy, that’s when the trouble comes. 

I dare to be different and want to be known for something much more than a social scandal or 15 minutes of fame on VH1.  When people think of me, I want them to see someone who has overcome, hustled and learned from their mistakes.  When I needed words of wisdom or a listening ear, I had people to turn to.  When I had questions about growing pains, I had people to turn to.  I just want to be able to offer the same assistance and support for others…even if it is just one person that I’m reaching.

THOUGHT: This may seem all over the place, but to bring it all together I will leave you with this…I look at the mistakes and wrong turns that others have made and I do the opposite.  I see those that have become successful and I strive to be better than them.  I don’t have to be in the spotlight to be considered a star…I’m a star in my own right!

Love & Hip Hop…No “Kimbellas” Allowed!

 

I’m taking a break (and a risk) in changing the pace a bit to express my opinions about the season premiere of Love and Hip Hop. It has caused quite a stir and is the spark of many “water cooler” conversations.  I think there is a lesson to be learned by this first episode…perception is key!


Let’s start with Kimbella…UGH!  For those that don’t know, Kimbella is the lady friend of Juelz Santana.  Her whole ora was just STANK from the very start.  You are invited to a group event and you BEGIN by acting stuck up and out of line!   I normally don’t like to pre-judge others, but DANG she is beyond annoying and it was hard to fully watch the episode.  In a world where someone’s life is but only one click away, how do you NOT see them on TV and come to your own conclusions?  Throughout the entire episode I was taken back because, although it was an exaggerated segment of scenes, I don’t surround myself with the “Kimbellas” of the world. Maybe my opinion of her will change as the season goes on, but for now…NOPE!  I am not a fan of her!

Moving on! Chrissy was the spark and subject of many Tweets and Facebook status updates.  Some thought that she was wrong for physically attacking the aforementioned young lady, while others actually identified with her because, they too, would have defended their friend just like she did.  Again, for those that did not watch the episode, here is a QUICK summary.  Everyone is at a house gathering at Emily’s apartment to celebrate her new-found independence from long time rapper boyfriend, Fabolous (Fab).  While all of the women are socializing, Kimbella drops a MAJOR bomb and reveals that she dated Fabolous 3 years prior.  The catch?  Emily was also dating Fab and was pregnant with their son.  Chrissy was outraged that this woman had the audacity to spill the beans at, what was supposed to be, such a nice event.  People may not agree, but I would have cussed someone out the same way Chrissy did, all to defend my friend!  The a$$ whoopin’ that she delivered was just an added bonus.

Now, some may think that I am going a bit overboard and I shouldn’t be inserting my opinions based off of a mere reality television guilty pleasure, but this particular episode represents what actually happens with females.  Catty behavior, bad attitudes, he said she said, infidelity, etc…it ALL contributes to drama amongst friends and it causes you to PERCEIVE a certain situation in a way that may or may not be necessary.  So which role will you be playing in your real life episode?  Kimbella or Chrissy?

Questions:

1. Do you think Chrissy was wrong for getting physical?

2. Was Kimbella’s timing off when she disclosed her relationship with Fab?

3. Are you #TeamKimbella or #TeamChrissy?

Sidenote: I think I like Somaya way more this season!

STAY TUNED…

Don’t Get Comfortable, Cuz You Can’t Stay!

I had to turn the TV off and chill out…just me, my MacBook and the new Drake Album (Take Care).  I have to totally zone out to put this post together…like the situation, my thoughts are all over the place so just be patient with me.  The more successful I am with being totally honest, finding my role in this exaggerated world and continuing my new passion for blogging, clarity has been a double-edged sword.  I am not only seeing things more clearly, but I m feeling them as well.  The bullsh*t that I am used to allowing to stay in my life is magically disappearing.  The people, the toxic friendships, and the “bad” are all starting to fall to the ground and out of my way.  I make conquering total happiness, a priority.  I make it a point to respect those around me even when they don’t deserve it (sometimes I fall short, but I apologize for my shortcomings)!  With all the greatness that I am feeling there is a small amount of sadness that I feel in learning to say good-bye to the bad people and things around me.  I have discussed this before (“Let Go”), but even with all of the preparedness that I seem to have built up for this moment in my life, I still stand clueless as to how I can make the reality a little less painful.  I’ve learned to step out on my faith…and trust that God will guide my footsteps.  What prompted me to write this?  Let’s just say a conversation with a love/hate “friend” took place.

Details? Not too many that I will offer, but I will say that this person has beyond raised my eyebrow and forced me to redefine what loyalty truly means to me.  Their reasoning for doing what, I believe to be shady, is simple…”I was on their list, but not a priority…” so they “didn’t even think of how [I] would feel.”  Now if that’s not one hell of a reason to do me dirty, I don’t know what is.  Needless to say, this conversation sparked something in me to REALLY understand that not everyone is me and not everyone lives to the same standards of dedication that I do.  I’m done faulting people for their lack of consideration and understanding that not everyone can come on my journey with me.  Some people will have to stop off at the next exit while I continue on my road trip.

THOUGHT: It seems fitting to quote Drake at this point… “May your neighbors respect you, trouble neglect you, angels protect you and Heaven accept you.”  You may not be a part of my life anymore, but I still wish you well.

What’s in a Reputation?!?!

This is probably going to be the most revealing and roller coaster-ish blogs I’ve written so far.  There’s a lot that I have always kept to myself and dealt with on my own, but in order for me to let my past stay in the past, I must speak on it in my present in order to have a better future.  It’s all about creating clear mental space!  There are people who have BEYOND hurt me and they probably don’t even know.  I find that it isn’t always necessary to say, “I feel like you hurt me” or “Remember that one day you said [insert mean comment]?”  Sometimes, it takes a while for someone to feel the effects of gossip or rumors…well, I can speak from experience.  It takes more than a pretty face to avoid the effects of another person’s ignorance.  I will say that my college years were nothing short of interesting!  They were good, bad, scary, fun…all rolled into one.

I met life-long friends and also came in contact with people who would be in my life for only a season.  I had a great education and took away some amazing experiences!  With all that said, there is a “but!”  The students at my school, weren’t always the best and for the first time, I’m speaking out on it.  To break it down, there was a small population of what I like to now call, “haters” who never knew me, but always had something to say.  There were plenty of jealous girls that I could call out by name, but instead we will just call them the “I’m light so I know I’m right” crew!  Then there were the “I think I’m in the NBA already” star athletes that had all the girls!  My favorite of all…the “I won’t say it to your face, but instead I will spread nasty lies about you behind your back” hater-ific bammas!

I say all of this to once and for all, shed light to what others THINK they know about me.  So many of my fellow Mason classmates assumed a great deal.  A lot of individuals never took the time to get to know me, but had a whole lot of opinions.  Their motive? I have no clue!  I’ve had to deal with members of a certain sorority (stay tuned to find out which one) telling my boyfriend at the time that they would let me pledge, put me through hell, then drop me so he better tell me not to go through with it if I know what’s best.  Their motive? One of them was extremely into the guy I was with. In the end, they missed out on a great addition to their organization all because of a college crush!  Nothing tops the time I had a close friend tell me that the Mason basketball team began spreading rumors about me.  Their motive? I wouldn’t sleep with one of the guys on the team.  The rumor? His name? Not important, but he knows who he is (if you REALLY want to know, it will be in my book). I think that one hurt the most…I was very cautious of who I hung out with and I guess this was a mistake that I would regret for a very long time.  His anger towards my rejection was the ultimate price to pay.  Guess having drinks with someone and saying no was a crime back then.  

I’ve had girls threaten to hurt me, had a 30-year-old R.A. try to get me fired because, once again, I wouldn’t entertain his advances.  He actually told me that he “isn’t friends with girls who don’t sleep with him” because “there wasn’t a point.”  His motive?  The panty-dropper who would go to any extent to get the goods.  He taught me that a guy will go to any extent to get what he wants…learned that very early in the game.  I could go on and on and on about the pitiful stories and dirty lies, but truth be told, I kept to myself a lot while I was in college. Especially after I got a taste of what popularity was.  Spent most of my free time off campus because all of my friends had cars.  Lived at the furthest point on campus so that I didn’t have to deal with drama (it followed me of course).  I worked full-time hours and went to school full-time for every year I was at Mason (what most people didn’t know about me).  So to all of those people who “knew” me I can now say that not only did you make me stronger in the long run, but you taught me several life lessons!  During this learning stage, I doubted myself.  I questioned who I was and often wondered what could allow someone to think that it was OK to say and do a lot of these things to me.  I think it’s quite funny that all of these years later, the same people who tried to bring me down are the ones apologizing for their actions and looking to become cool with me.

However, shame on you for being so morally ugly, dishonest, and hateful!  What’s in a reputation?  Everything…if you give it that much power.

THOUGHT: Be careful of who you let close to your throne…they just may be your next backstabber. 

Let Go!

If I said that the past two weeks were tiring and stressful…that would be the understatement of the century.  I will stray away from the trivial complaints and focus on what’s really important.  For starters, I took a major step in solidifying my independence and just keeping that in the back of my mind is what keeps my adrenaline going!  Although it feels great to take this major stride, I can’t help but take a moment and be still long enough to realize the meaning of it all.  It’s been an emotional couple of weeks…memories that were built in the place I left, the anxiety that comes along with change, uncertainty of what comes next… It’s been really hard, to say the least, but I am learning to let go and if you will, “let God!


I have no clue what tomorrow is going to bring, but I do know
that I am riding this wave of ambiguity and soaking up everything!  Not knowing what will come next is scary, but living a life that feels good makes it worth the risk.  One thing that I have learned to do is sit back, watch and observe the people…the things…the environment around me.  I’m learning something new each day and for the first time the things that I’ve wanted all along are coming my way.  Fun, success, clarity, change, goals worth having…it’s all flowing in my direction and all I can say is…keep it coming!

THOUGHT:  Letting go will make room for the people and things worth holding on to.

Queens to Philly to DC…

I can’t just jump right in and start from adulthood…there’s something valuable in knowing where my journey begins, so here is the fast forwarded version.  Born in Flushing Queens, NY…raised in Philly…now living in DC (well, the DMV)!  I didn’t realize what any of this would actually mean until I got older.  Although only my infant years were lived in Queens, I remained strong to my New York pride as I spent all-year-round time at my Grandparents’ apartment in the Bronx,  and driving up for almost every holiday. 

 

The city I was raised in was Philly and without a doubt, it shed light to a whole new life…one that I knew I wanted out of.  As my infant years became my toddler years, then my childhood years, then my teenage years…I noticed that the trips to my second home of NYC were few and far in between.  Tragedy struck my family in more ways than one.  Drugs, violence, and above all…DEATH. At a young age, I came to know what death really meant as I lost two uncles to drugs.  Another two disappeared and weren’t seen for years…also due to drugs.  Although depressing, it was a life lesson that I still hold close. NO ONE IS EXEMPT FROM GOING DOWN THE WRONG PATH IN LIFE. Despite experiencing those tragic moments, my parents were amazing at keeping me focused, driven and sheltered even though I was surrounded by chaos.

 

Not living in the best neighborhoods in Philly had its ups and its downs. I was able to pin point people that I knew I didn’t want to become and I made friends with the neighborhood dope boys…I lived in a few areas of Philly, but the hood I spent most of my key years in was in South Philly.  Crazy enough, I was never scared because I made nice with the right people who watched out for me.  Almost all of them told me that I was different…to stay in school…there’s nothing here…live your life.  That’s exactly what I did!  I made sure to go to college outside of the Tri-State area (PA, NJ, NY).  Once I graduated, I knew I didn’t want to stay home for long and after two years of working, saving money, learning, being loved by my parents, enjoying my friends, I knew that it was time.  I packed my bags, jumped in my blue Toyota Echo, headed for the DMV (DC, MD, VA) and I knew I didn’t want to go back to the 215 unless it was to visit.  I love my city that I was raised in, but in order for me to break free of the norm and truly be fulfilled I had to get out there and live without my safety net.  But, one thing I realize now is that your safety net is never gone no matter how far you move.  That’s the beauty of it all!  As much as I tried to get away, I always go back and have a new appreciation for my family, my friends, and my city!  The DMV is simply where I dwell…my real home is where my heart is, but I needed my new dwelling spot in order to be kicked into the next phase of my life!

 

THOUGHT:  Sometimes you have to leave what you know in order to find who you are.

Psychotic [Love] Roams Wild…

It runs through us, it captures us and it DRAINS us!  Yet, we still want it!  They say real love shouldn’t be hard…well that’s not always true.  Love is love…whether it’s good for you or not is up to you to decide.  One thing love shouldn’t do is take over your life…it should be equal and built on a foundation of respect.  To even get to this point in my life where I was ready to just BE HAPPY and find a passion to focus on, I had to walk towards the door, leave my luggage behind and not look back!  My love has been psychotically DEEP!  I gave so much of me to so many people that I didn’t even recognize myself when I looked in the mirror.  Sometimes it takes someone stomping on your heart and pushing you to the edge in order for you to wake up and REALIZE that you must love YOU before anyone else.

THOUGHT: If you let love roam wild, eventually you will lose yourself!