Congratulations are in order for Dwyane Wade, 32, and Gabrielle Union, 41, as they tied the knot in Miami this week. Wade gained a wife and Union gained a husband and three sons (pictured above); they look perfect!
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We never know what someone else is going through behind closed doors. Depression. Anxiety. Lonlieness. Drug addiction. We assume that because we see them smiling, that they aren’t walking a dark path.
Seeing an awesome actor bring various roles to life for years was our privilege.
I just watched one of Robin Williams’ movies, The Angriest Man in Brooklyn, and it was awesome. So, to hear that he may have taken his own life was a huge shock. People die everyday. People commit suicide everyday. It’s just something about being able to see someone grow and struggle in the public eye and then one day they’re just gone. May God have mercy on his soul.
I was going to do a post on the latest Beyoncé and Jay-Z drama because it really is juicy. However, I decided to switch gears and not indulge in the gossip, but if you really want to watch his alleged mistress diss Mrs. Carter, here’s the link lol: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CLbs1m9M5UM
So, the real topic at hand, that I’m eager to dive into, is how we (as a society) treat people in the hospitality industry. I have the overwhelming joy (sarcasm) of being a bartender. In this industry, as in life, there are amazing customers and there are also horrible life suckers.
Lastnight I had a horrible life sucker shove his I.D. in my face because I made him hold it out too long (yikes). Who knew that waiting 5 seconds with your hand out, warranted such a display? Of course, I’m able to refuse service to anyone that decides to treat me like a slave and that’s exactly what I did. Oh, and in case you’re shaking your head thinking what he did wasn’t that awful, he also cussed me out for making him wait.
I don’t necessarily care about WHAT he did as much as I care about his reasoning. Is this what the world has come to? People are allowed to disrespect those that are serving them in a restaurant simply because they are working for tips? I’ll be the first to tell anyone, just because I’m serving you, doesn’t give you the right to disrespect me.
I’m curious, how many of you treat servers, bartenders, valet, hotel clerks, etc. with disrespect? Have you ever done it and felt bad? Do you feel above them? Share your stories!
Lastly, becoming a bartender was on my dream list (check)! I always felt that it was a skill that paid well and it would give me the freedom to move anywhere and still earn an income. Ok, now im done, ciao!
First things first, yes, I cussed in my title…it’s ok. Now, I’ve been going back and forth about this topic for a while, but mostly through random thoughts in my head.
So many of us are on a profound journey that we want the world to take notice of, but have you ever thought about the world not wanting what’s best for you?
I mean, let’s be real, do you honestly believe that all of your friends are happy for you? I’ll be the one to burst your bubble; they aren’t! That’s because not everyone is your friend. Not everyone is in a healthy place where they can be happy for others. That place can be a breeding ground for envy and jealousy, so we all have to be careful. We can also have individuals around us that just aren’t good people. They only care about their journey and their life; in other words, selfish.
People can genuinely f*ck up your journey! Friends, coworkers, exes, boyfriends, girlfriends, family… all opportunities to derail your path. One bit of advice I can offer, from experience of course, when people walk out of your life, allow them. You don’t need them. If you give life to any negativity, you’ve opened the door to unnecessary drama and distractions.
Here’s what YOU can do in the midst of dealing with others… continue to love, shine light, stay focused. The universe will work everything else out, trust me.
When change comes about, don’t fight it. Sometimes it’s best to let it be and not search for understanding. I believe when you go against it, that’s when the darkness wins and your mind no longer belongs to your soul because you begin to worry and panic.
We get accustomed to routines and schedules and when either are altered, we realize that we’ve been chained to the idea of what is normal.
I don’t want to be normal anymore.
If I sat down and wrote a story about my life over the past few years, you’d wonder how I’m still pushing through each day. I surprise myself. I never knew how much strength I had until my closest friends abandoned me, until every door closed in my face, until I had no choice but to get up each day and try again. We all go through our own struggles; we face our own storms. When you are left with nothing in life but your health, a clean slate and family, you’ll learn just why God created you the way He did.
All of my experiences in life have prepared me for this very moment. All of my mistakes have uncovered my strong desire to do better. All of the untrue people I surrounded myself with helped me to appreciate the loyal ones.
I’m constantly discovering a new part of me that I didn’t even think existed. When I look back on MY life thus far, I’m confident that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be and I won’t allow tough times or bad experiences to defeat me. All of life’s happenings push me to set new goals, take risks and to not settle.
I’m getting through my storm because I’m realizing that it’s not a storm… it’s a transformation.
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. ~Maya Angelou
I posted a few weeks ago about Zendaya Coleman being cast as the leading role in the controversial biopic of late singer, Aaliyah. Since then, she’s gracefully bowed out due to some harsh criticism from Aaliyah fans and push back from the singer’s family.
It’s no secret that Aaliyah’s family is doing everything they can to halt production and have publicly stated that they will block Lifetime from obtaining rights to the singer’s music. The family has gone on record and is determined to not only cast an A-list actress as the lead, but to have it released on the big screen, similar to Tina Turner’s, What’s Love Got to Do With It.
Despite the controversy, Lifetime has moved forward in casting actress Alexandra Shipp as the new lead and talk show host, Wendy Williams, has spilled the beans about being the new Executive Producer for the film. Shipp was recently named the lead actress in VH1’s Drumline sequel and she’s been featured in Disney’s, Victorious.
To put rumors to rest, Zendaya released a statement in a series of videos via Instagram, which stated:
Let me just explain something. The reason why I chose not to do the Aaliyah movie had nothing to do with the haters or people telling me that I couldn’t do it, I wasn’t talented enough, or I wasn’t black enough. It had absolutely nothing to do with that.”
“The main reasons were that the production value wasn’t there, there were complications with the music rights, and I just felt like it wasn’t being handled delicately considering the situation. And I tried my best to reach out to the family on my own, and I wrote a letter, but I was unable to do so; therefore, I felt not really morally okay with moving forward with the project.”
“With all that being said, congratulations to the new woman playing Aaliyah; I only hope she does not have to deal with half the hate that I had to deal with. And remember that we are all human beings trying to do what we love to do. Let’s practice motivation and love; not discrimination and hate. All right?”
Either way, I’m neutral on whether the leading role should be A-list or D; I just hope they do the film the right way and tastefully. I also hope the family isn’t being driven by greed. We shall see how this unfolds.
Now I’ve seen it all! This is just faaaaabulous. Kriste Lewis is 40 and a mother of two and just so happens to be making history.
A dance instructor recently fulfilled a lifelong dream by becoming a New Orleans Saints cheerleader and her age didn’t stop her. Kudos to Kriste and even more kudos to a classy organization for giving her a fair shot.
What dream will you choose to fulfill today?