HUMP Day Motivation! Meet Jim Hernandez!

Did you ever feel like you wanted more out of life? Did you ever feel like you had a story to tell that could help others?  Did you ever go against the norm and jump out on faith because YOU had faith in yourself?  If you can answer “yes” to these questions, then you’ve taken the first steps in discovering your power…the power to inspire, the power to motivate, the power to be GREAT!  I was at a point in my life, as you all know, where I began to crave success and I wanted so much more out of my LIFE!  Randomly one day, I did a search for John Starks because I thought he’d be a great person to interview.  For whatever reason, there wasn’t much current information on him, but I came across a photo.  A photo of him and a gentleman named, Jim Hernandez, at an event.  So, I sat for a minute and I pondered on this…hmmm, barely any information on one of the greatest NBA players for the Knicks, but this guy has a picture with him?  Who IS this guy?  I began reading things like “motivational speaker talks with youth…” and “Jim Hernandez speaks to high school class…” and then it started to click.  This wasn’t just a random person that I had come across, this was the person who was going to kick start my passion to continue on my journey with a purpose.

He has no clue (well, now he does), but he began to motivate me before I even had the chance to speak with him.  So, I knew what my next step had to be…to reach out and give him kudos for just merely having a presence in the world that is built on inspiring others…and that’s exactly what I did.  I also had the urge to share his success and passion with my readers!  So without further ado, I introduce to you, Jim Hernandez, motivational speaker/mogul in the making.  Born in San Juan, Puerto Rico and raised in the South Bronx, NY (no he’s not a distant relative lol), he spends his time traveling all around the United States encouraging and building up our youth.  He teaches them to think BIG and to consider sharing THEIR stories and one day becoming a motivational speaker as well.  With so many things discouraging our young people and the exposure that they get to violence and drugs and poverty, it is his goal to show them a different way!  Check out what he has to say to the Dreamworld:

Did your environment (neighborhood, school, family, etc.) give you the motivation to want more or did you possess an inner-desire?

It was a combination of it all.  My neighborhood, school, community, friends, all of my peers always looked up to the SAME  people.  We ALL admired rappers, actors and athletes.  But what was it about all the people that we admired that made them successful?  They learned how to manage and develop their talents.  I always knew there was more to life than working 9 to 5, putting money in a 401k and just growing old.  I didn’t only know this, I understood this and I WANTED MORE.  My family is a HUGE support system and always encourage me to go out and do my thing.  I get my drive from my mother and my personality from my father.

How does one go about discovering what their dream is?

A LOT of reading and surrounding yourself with positive, powerful, influential individuals.  You have to have a different state of mind which is different from everything you have done before which has NOT produced the results you have desired.  Understand that if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.  If you’re not growing, you’re declining.  You have to understand the only difference between winning and losing is taking the first step.  Take that step towards what you believe in.  This applies to any area of life, do not be afraid to fail.  Take risks: If you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will be wise.  There is a lesson in all that you do.  Invest time into yourself, invest time into your God-given talent and once you do that, then and only then will your PURPOSE present itself to you.

Has your success as a motivational speaker provided a life where you don’t need a traditional 9-5?

Yes it has.  I have had the blessing to live out my dream because I believed in myself and was not afraid to fail.  One of my favorite author’s, Tim Ferris, who wrote “The Four- hour Work Week” allowed me to look at life from a different perspective.  I call it the “What’s the worst that can happen” point of view.  If I leave my job  and things don’t work out what’s the worst that can happen?  I have to get another job, I may get evicted, things may not work out.  Whatever the “Worst case scenario” was it didn’t involve me getting killed or hurting someone else.  So … Why NOT take a leap of faith and that is exactly how I went about it.  I still have the resignation letter from the day I quit too.

What do you think contributes to your success, allowing your audience to trust your words?

I am not afraid to be myself and share my story.  I am very honest and transparent and allow that to pour out of me when I am on stage.  We ALL have unique stories and this is something that I realized at the age of 25 while on this journey.  I keep things SIMPLE.  My mantra is Be REAL. Be RELATABLE. Be READY.

What do you think is your God-given purpose in life?

I notice that when I speak, people listen.  It’s something that I realized early on.  People value my opinion and the advice I share with them.  When I first began searching for myself and my God-given talent, what I saw was that other people around me were inspired, others were motivated and encouraged to do the same thing.  That is when the LIGHT-BULB over my head went off.  I wanted to take that and enhance it, I want to share my story and my wisdom with more and more people.  My God-given purpose is to simply SPARK the imagination and creativity in the mind of as many people as possible till my job here on this earth is done.

What do you say to the young person in the audience who doesn’t think they can be successful or overcome their circumstances?

I would first ask them WHY do they think that they cannot be successful or overcome their circumstances.  It is not always about what you say to a person.  Also take the time out to listen.  Some people already KNOW what has to be done but just don’t believe in themselves enough to do it.  Sometimes it may be a lack of guidance, direction or maybe even a positive role model in their lives that is keeping them from reaching their potential.  Encouragement, support or even a listening ear will push a person just enough to help them embark on their journey thru LIFE.

But remember, you are as you THINK.  Many of us base what we THINK off of what we see, know and are taught to believe.  The young person in the audience would first have to be open to the message and let it into his heart and mind before any transformation can begin.

What are your long-term career goals?

Speaking to a million youths, bringing awareness to Motivational Speaking in urban communities allowing the youth to share their stories through public speaking, travel to as many places around the world as possible, create a financial life-style space for my family & myself and just continue to have as much fun as possible as I continue this journey.

What’s something funny/quirky about you that most don’t know?

I am a super-hero on my spare time. Shhhhhhhhhh …

We can all use an extra PUSH and sometimes all we have to do to get it is, LISTEN!  Thank you for joining the Dreamworld, I hope you got the inspiration you needed today!

Want to see Jim in action?  Check out the below video or visit www.jimspeak.com:

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Is Reality TV Rotting Our Brains?!?!

You might be wondering where my fascination with reality television stems from…then again, maybe you’re not, but I’m going to explain it anyway.   It all began with The Real World, making its debut in NYC. I often wondered, “Is this really a show?”  People really lived in a house? With seven strangers? To find out what happened when people stopped being polite and started getting real?  (FYI ALERT: Tami Roman, from Basketball Wives, got her first break on The Real World )  From there, it crossed over into my collegiate years; I became obsessed with America’s Next Top Model.  How could you NOT love seeing “everyday” girls get a chance to become a TOP MODEL? They went from bland to beautiful right in front of me (well, on TV)!  With my interest at full-peek, I started to branch out into other shows like Laguna Beach where I could see rich white kids driving around in a Benz to HIGHSCHOOL!  From that moment on, the madness crept into my life! The Bad Girls Club, Love and Hip-Hop, Basketball WivesReal Housewives (all cities), Keeping up with the Kardashians, etc.


It got out of control!  With violent shows like, The Bad Girls Club and Basketball Wives, I cringe and I feel so uneasy.  I really do FEEL the tension through the television!  It’s as if I support violence and bullying by watching another female on TV get jumped, slapped in the face, talked down to, called “bitch”, and most importantly being told that they aren’t “black enough”.  I couldn’t decide if it was all reality shows that made me feel this way or a select few, so I did a mini experiment to help clarify (internally) what was going on with me.  The first thing I did was cut back on reality TV and the second thing was to ask some family, friends, Facebook and Twitter what they thought.  I mean afterall, I couldn’t be the only person feeling this way right? Check out what others had to say:



Amaris’ Feedback:

What is the first thing you think of when you see two grown women fighting on national television?

First and foremost, TV is entertainment and the degree to which we engulf in these reality shows is merely our need to be amused…I think it is humorous and entertaining. That is something that I probably shouldn’t admit to, but the reality is this: the women on these shows are adults. They are aware that their actions and words will be displayed for the world to see and judge. They are conscious of entertainment and what it is to “stay” on a show and even possibly (if they are wild and crazy enough) get their own tv shows. That, along with money and attention, are their goals… I have respect for women with greater goals. Acting is an art, being a drama queen is not… So…as long as there are women out there willing to embarrass themselves and show their face in any light for that check…I guess there are women like me who will watch….and be amused.


Larry’s Feedback:

(1) As a man, what’s the main reason why you don’t indulge in such guilty pleasures? (2) What do you think of females that fight, especially on TV for the world to see?

1. Reality gives people a false sense of reality. Nothing protrayed on any reality TV show is the reality of the normal everyday person. False looks, false relationships, and other negative aspects of life are all that are protrayed on these trashy shows and it honestly is the downfall of positive productive thought. You cannot input such mindless garbage into your mind and not believe that it in some way does not effect your everyday thinking about life, love, or anything else for that matter.

2. Fighting, whether its for tv or not for anyone, is just not ok. Barring some sort of life threating experience to yourself or family; there is nothing anyone should be able to say to you that should make you use physical force to retailiate. Critical thinking is what separates us from animals and its only those who are mentally weak who find the need to physically attack another person. Everyone has had their weak moments where we have all slipped and got into a physical altercation, but as an adult no person should ever have the verbal capacity to make you come to blows because once you have thrown a punch you have already been mentally defeated and already have lost.


Sheena’s Feeback:

As a young professional and the head of a non-profit geared towards at-risk female teens, how do you think images on reality TV shape the minds of our young women and what damage do you think is being done (if any)?

I believe the images being portrayed on certain reality TV shows give young women a false sense of reality. The young women my organization works with are at a very impressionable age and unfortunately a lot of them have not made a clear distinction between their reality and reality TV…Which leads me to believe that in the wrong hands what’s portrayed on TV could be very detrimental to young women in our community…it’s not necessarily about what you watch, but about knowing the difference from someone else’s life versus your own. Putting emphasis on conflict resolution methods that teach young women how to handle the situations they see on TV, in their own lives. While being cognizant of the fact that every action has a reaction, so we clearly think through the decisions we make. Thus becoming accountable for the choices we decide to make as individuals. Essentially, just because you’ve seen it on TV doesn’t make it right.


Tabby’s Feedback:

How do you think reality television is hindering AND/OR helping our youth?

It always amazes me how quickly society forms an opinion of an ENTIRE group – race, age, genre or, in this case, television show…TV shows on Animal Planet, The History Channel, The Food Network, HGTV and many others are, in MY opinion, Reality TV…Unfortunately, however, once MTV served up an appetizer of “real” lies, deceit, sex and violence known as ‘The Real World,’ America’s appetite for drama and thirst for more grew beyond control…In the talk show age, for every Oprah there was a Jerry, for every Donohue there was a Maury The language, violence, sex and drama have a numbing effect that redefines what is the norm for our youth. As a teen, if we’re friends, the Kardashians have taught me the b-word is a pet name for my loved ones…  Jersey Shore taught me that sex is no longer a sacred act reserved for someone I love but the new after-party activity with people whose name I can’t even remember… RHONJ taught me that if I don’t like you, it’s ok to run your name through the mud to whoever will listen… *Insert super star searching for love* taught me that moving in with someone I barely know will not only help me figure out whether he/she is “the one” but defined “the one” as whoever had the tiniest clothes and showed potential to give it up quicker than others…As a mother with a 5 year old daughter, this trash is NEVER on my child’s “TV dinner” menu because I believe there’s a maturity level required and I’m far too busy focusing on her learning tools…Bottomline: it’s up to the parents (not the television) to raise their child.



I posed the question on my Facebook and Twitter pages, “Do you think reality TV rots our brains?” and here are some of the responses I got back:

Yes, but it doesn’t mean im going to stop watching. Those real housewives crack me up haha ~Sapna

Not only does it rot brains, but it becomes the guideline for some peoples’ lives, they try to act, and look just like these reality stars ~Delonte

If someone has a brain they never watch reality shows. ~Charlie aka Dad

Yes I do…everyone wants fame because it’s so accessible,people should always strive for talent not fame.Be talented & fame will come! ~Lead Singer of The Electric Barbarellas



So, after hearing what others had to say, I’ve concluded that I’m not the only one who thinks about the damages that reality shows do to the brain, but I was also able to understand that uneasy feeling inside of me.  I agree that not all shows are bad!  I can see singers chasing their dreams on American Idol or chefs showing off their skills on Top Chef.  I don’t have to watch bullies and violence and quite frankly I don’t think I should.  What we put into our mind eventually comes out in our thoughts, words and actions!  It’s safe to say that I am much more aware of the negative effects the “bad apples” can have on not only me, but society as well.

As you depart from the Dreamworld, check out what Shaunie, executive producer of Basketball Wives had to say regarding bullying on her show:

A Prom Dream Come True!

No matter what path anyone takes in life, it’s so important to give back.  Give back to family, to friends, to strangers…to your community!  That feeling of making someone happy can’t be replaced with anything else and sometimes it only takes a small gesture to make someone’s world a little better.  With that said, it’s no surprise that I was more than happy to volunteer for the Uplifting Sisters “Prom Dreams” event!

I’ve always worked with youth of all ages while living in Philadelphia, so this was right up my alley and something I knew would make a big difference in the lives of young ladies!  I’m open to helping any and everyone, but there’s something about helping young girls that has always been close to my heart and for that I commend Sheena Brown, founder of Uplifting Sisters, because there aren’t enough professional women GIVING BACK to our country’s future.  Attendees were able to shop for dresses, jewelry, shoes, shawls and handbags at NO CHARGE!  Everything was free to them and their families and it was all with a goal of doing something great!

No matter how tired any of us were, seeing the look on their faces was something that even I can’t describe!  If you aren’t seeking to help others, you need to start because it will truly be inspiring for not only them, but for you as well.  Teamwork makes the dream work!