respect

I was going to do a post on the latest Beyoncé and Jay-Z drama because it really is juicy. However, I decided to switch gears and not indulge in the gossip, but if you really want to watch his alleged mistress diss Mrs. Carter, here’s the link lol: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CLbs1m9M5UM

(Source: marylandbartending.com)

So, the real topic at hand, that I’m eager to dive into, is how we (as a society) treat people in the hospitality industry. I have the overwhelming joy (sarcasm) of being a bartender. In this industry, as in life, there are amazing customers and there are also horrible life suckers.

Lastnight I had a horrible life sucker shove his I.D. in my face because I made him hold it out too long (yikes). Who knew that waiting 5 seconds with your hand out, warranted such a display? Of course, I’m able to refuse service to anyone that decides to treat me like a slave and that’s exactly what I did. Oh, and in case you’re shaking your head thinking what he did wasn’t that awful, he also cussed me out for making him wait.

I don’t necessarily care about WHAT he did as much as I care about his reasoning. Is this what the world has come to? People are allowed to disrespect those that are serving them in a restaurant simply because they are working for tips? I’ll be the first to tell anyone, just because I’m serving you, doesn’t give you the right to disrespect me.

I’m curious, how many of you treat servers, bartenders, valet, hotel clerks, etc. with disrespect? Have you ever done it and felt bad? Do you feel above them? Share your stories!

Lastly, becoming a bartender was on my dream list (check)! I always felt that it was a skill that paid well and it would give me the freedom to move anywhere and still earn an income. Ok, now im done, ciao!

I find it fitting to address the ladies out there, especially on Independence Day. Being a woman isn’t easy; we are naturally emotional creatures, take many things personal and often put up with a lot of crap that we must take on with grace. Being a woman is a responsibility. WE, far too often, compromise our self worth, our integrity and our life, for men and for petty female drama. It’s time to take back our self appreciation and begin to realize just how special we really are. The second we allow and except disrespect, mental or physical abuse or anything less than high standards, is the second we give up the very thing that makes us great! Love is not mean. Love is not ignorant. Love doesn’t call you “bitch” or “hoe” or anything outside of our name that is degrading. People will only treat you as badly as you allow them. It’s never too late to make a change or set the bar a little higher than yesterday. Love yourself more than anyone else can and you’ll be just fine.

Sincerely,

DaniTheDreamgirl

Danithedreamgirl

I’m Your Bartender, Not Your Slave!

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